where oh where can she be

My Q on yahoo answers 9/1/2009 9 am
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Why is it so hard to find a woman who wants to date a cross-dresser that is looking for a relationship?

I am a cd that is looking for a serious relationship with a genetic woman and start a family. cross-dressing does not mean cds are gay or wanting to become a woman. Yes, I go out in public, and I am out to many people. There are many cds out there who are looking for a serious relationship.


One of the most daunting questions to ask and most people answer that question with a preconception of what a cross-dresser is, either from movies or talk shows or from their own conception of what a cross-dresser is to be. I posed this question to all knowing community (hmmm…), of Yahoo Answers! In the Family & Relationships > Singles & Dating section as well as the Society & Culture > Cultures & Groups > Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered section and the answer are so different and some what predictable between the two its interesting to read. I will post the replies later in this article.

I asked this question because I am searching for a relationship with a woman (genetic girl.) one that I can start a family with and one that can grow with me and accept this side of me. I am at an age where I feel I need to finally settle down, yet still allowing the female side have her freedom. I know it’s a difficult situation I put my self in one that I did not choose, but one that choose me.

I have been out to my family and many friends so I am no afraid of what might or might not happen, as with any life choice we make, we face the consequences that happen to follow that decision.

In my unending search for the love of my life, I of course have certain traits that I am looking for, I know, I know… its an impossible but I know she is out there.
I wont list the traits and qualities here as I have posted a you tube video of my plea.

Most cross-dressers out there are in the same boat as I am in and are having to give up or hide their femme side and it eats at them constantly which in turn makes them at least to me a ticking time bomb (will elaborate on this in another entry.) I believe, I am somewhat different as I have done a lot in my personal growth and have gone to “strait” places and have no problem blending in, of course there are still things that I would like to check off on my list but overall most are checked off. So with that said I feel that I don’t need to dress so often ( I know shocking) but I know I won’t stop its part of who I am.
Well in regards to the answers to my question, it shows me that the population en mass are confused about what a cross-dresser is or is not. And the assumptions that people have about sexuality and masculinity verses femininity is so off its funny. But as you will read it is all somewhat positive.

These are from the Single & Dating here are a few

• G*****g
Because you're weird! Why would a woman want to share her panties and stockings with you?
• g******h
I think most women would have to get to know you as a man first, then be introduced to the 'other you' gradually at a later stage. Otherwise they might not understand, and be freaked out.
• j**********8
Most women want a man. And those women who prefer other women want a "real" woman. And no one wants to get involved with a selfish person, no matter what gender they might be. People like you with unusual fetishes are usually more-selfish-than-usual.
G*******h is terribly wrong; women need to know about your fetish right up front. You can learn that from most any website or Yahoo Group dedicated to your interest in CD.
• j*********m
hello!!!!!!! no girl wants to go out with a guy who cross-dresses....cuz thats a sign of insecurity, its telling her ur not sure of wat sex u want to be and that i may change your mind at any time, sumthing she wont feel good about.....

here are a few from the LBGT section

• c****z.
woman have a deep inner desire to be loved by a man. It gives them a sense of protection.

• w*************s
i dont know?...
i would date you.

they may be hard to find but there is someone out there for you.
keep looking.


• M*****K
Because sadly, there aren't as many people who are accepting out there as there should be... My suggestion would be to stick around LGBT for some options, from my experience bi girls are most likely to be supportive partners for cross-dressers, since they're not uptight about femininity. I've known a few happy couples like that.

Cute hair, btw!



These answers go to show you how miss informed people are and that education and understanding is the key to a better society that we can all live in.