Friends 5/8/09

Friends, how important are they?
Having friends to share those triumphant moments, devastating defeats and a shoulder to lean or cry on, is one of the most fundamental basic relationships to have. Friends come in all different backgrounds. We lose, gain and hold on to friends.
To a transgender person like me, we have to tread carefully in choosing friends. For most of my life I had always set boundaries, lived two separate lives having two set of friends, ones that know me as a woman and ones that know me as a man, and no one in between.
It was easy at first to separate my friends, as I had a small group of them. Work friends only new my male persona. And my cross-dresser friends only knew of my female persona. With very few learning what I looked like as a male.

In dealing with my transgenderism and not allowing my male persona friends find out became more of a burden to me, always lying and hiding the real me from them, and not educating them. I have lost many friends because I was afraid to tell them and we lost contact.

Being alone with no friends gets to yah, no one to talk to about things about life about anything, and having friends that understand is so important, that they accept you for your self. Having made the choice to tell everyone as a new years resolution. Slowly merging my female and male friends, I have come to love all my friends even more

To me friends are so important for emotional support, being able to just let your self be you and not having to fake it.

I have been so jealous of women, just because of the strong bond in their friendships, the BFF. Many guys don’t have that kind of bond, men are not that emotional, towards each other. And they way men handle it really differs that of women. Don’t get me wrong the I know there is that saying “keep your friends close but your enemies closer” but as with all things in life there are risk. Choose your friends wisely, and don’t afraid to just expose yourself to an old friend. You never know what will happen, they may just surprise you. That, has happened to me many times, and I am all the better for it and society as a whole is better.